This is a story about life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. This is a story about finding new family. It’s about chasing your dreams and following your heart, even when everything seems stacked against you.
It’s a new life, in more ways than one.
They would call me a hero, but all I could see was a failing mom who couldn’t even provide for her own children. They said I saved a life with my decision to donate. What most people don’t know, is that it actually saved MY own life as well.
Homeless to Hero: My Living Kidney Donor Journey
It’s the second anniversary of the date of our surgery – Friday the 13th – and I am pleased to announce the release of my book about the experience. Revamped and expanded from a previous version written immediately after surgery, this book tells the untold story.
There are very few people on this earth who know what I was actually going through when I made the decision to donate my kidney to Jody. Those who did know thought I was crazy. Some even suggested I shouldn’t do it, or that it wasn’t the “right time”.
A very specific set of fortuitous events happened to allow me to be able to give this gift at a time in my life where I worried how I’d be able to buy groceries that week.
A Bad Relationship Ends and A New Life Begins
In August 2015, I moved with my five children to New Jersey to start a new life. We’d been homeless since February 2015, leaving everything we owned back in Texas in storage and bringing one small bag a piece, my computer (so I could work), our dog, and my son’s fish in a Dodge Caravan and trying to regroup after their father left us.
In April 2016, I would undergo surgery to donate my kidney to a fellow writer I knew through working for Yahoo! years prior.
The Secret Struggle of a Single Mom
We may have appeared happy enough on the outside, but my family was struggling. I’d moved to a more expensive place to try to give my kids a better life. One piece of bad luck after another meant I was struggling to put food on the table. More than once I had to borrow money from my friend to pay rent. We went from sleeping on the hard floor to sleeping on air mattresses, to eventually sleeping on beds found on Freecycle. Dishes, silverware, bath towels, extra clothing… all those household things you take for granted, we had to acquire all over again. So when the surgery date happened in April, it was only 8 months after starting our new life. I was struggling, in more ways than I realized at the time.
Despite all the uncertainty, I did it. It was the best thing I ever did, but even then, I had no idea how much my life would change.
The real story is in what came AFTER.
What happened after surgery? What happened when my landlord came a month later and said she wouldn’t be renewing my lease (at no fault of my own; she wanted to live there herself)? What happened when my children and I faced homelessness again? When my business was struggling to make the money it once did? When relationships were on the rocks and I felt more alone than ever before in my life?
Was it all going to fall apart again?
After I’d given literally all I had to give! After I had taken this leap of faith, accepted the risk, and given a part of my body to someone else?
I thought good things were supposed to happen to people who did good things. People were calling me a “hero” but I felt like the biggest loser in the world. I felt like giving up completely. On everything. Even on life itself.
That decision to donate my kidney and the series of events that would come after changed me. In so many ways, I became a new person. And THAT’S what this book is really all about.
Find out how I learned that the Universe didn’t hate me, God wasn’t trying to punish me, and how sometimes you have to reach the very bottom before you can truly see how high you can climb.
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Thank you SO much for your support,